101 Affirmations for People Pleasers (to Finally Put Yourself First)

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Affirmations for People Pleasers

Putting yourself first can be painfully difficult for people pleasers, but affirmations can help you make your wants and needs a much-needed priority.

Whether you learned to be a people pleaser from your parents, or the habit developed from societal expectations, being a people pleaser can cause you to feel anxious, guilty, and even resentful.

But these 101 affirmations for people pleasers will help you become more self-reliant, more self-confident, and more self-assured.

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People pleasing is the act of putting other people’s needs or wants above your own in order to gain their approval or avoid conflict.

Too much people pleasing sounds like ⤵️

💔 Constantly seeking approval
💔 Avoiding conflict
💔 Difficulty saying no
💔 Prioritizing others’ needs over your own
💔 Feeling anxious when not meeting others’ expectations
💔 Feeling guilty about saying no
💔 Heightened stress
💔 Resentment
💔 Strong feelings of guilt
💔 Feeling disgusted with yourself

While it can be a good thing in moderation, it’s important to find a healthy balance between meeting others’ needs and taking care of your own.


The goal of people pleasing affirmations is to stop constantly putting other people’s wants and needs above yours.

Because life becomes a lot more fulfilling and balanced when you put yourself first for a change.

No matter how silly you think reading affirmations is, your brain needs to hear them.

Because guess what?

Your brain believes the words you tell yourself.

Recovering from people pleasing is life-changing

Making yourself a priority by setting boundaries, practicing self-care, and speaking up for yourself will completely change your life for the better.

When you start speaking, thinking, and believing these affirmations for people-pleasers, a part of your soul will be healed.

You are so worthy of self-assurance, self-sufficiency, and prioritizing yourself.

It’s time to fill your head with these 101 mantras and affirmations for stopping people pleasing (that are filled with so much self-care!).

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101 Affirmations for Putting Yourself First

1. I am worthy of taking care of myself first.

2. My worth is not tied to how much I can do for others.

3. I can’t please everyone, and that’s completely okay.

4. I am enough exactly as I am.

5. I release the need to please everyone.

6. Every day, I prioritize my own needs and wellbeing.

7. Putting myself first is vital and necessary.

8. I am allowed to say no without feeling guilty.

9. I trust my instincts and honor my boundaries.

10. With every breath, I value and prioritize my happiness and fulfillment.

11. I am capable of achieving my goals and dreams.

12. I am proud of who I am and the values I stand for.

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13. Setting boundaries is an act of self-care.

14. Saying no is a form of self-respect.

15. Saying no is a sign of strength and empowerment.

16. I am not obligated to say yes to everything and everyone.

17. I trust myself to make the best decisions for me.

18. It’s not my responsibility to fix someone else’s problems.

19. With every exhale, I release the need for others’ approval.

20. With every inhale, I focus on what serves my highest good.

21. I am confident in my ability to communicate my needs and boundaries.

22. I am capable of making my own decisions and standing by them.

23. I deserve to have my own opinions and feelings.

24. My wellbeing is important, and I prioritize it every day.

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25. I honor my needs and take care of myself first.

26. Every day, I choose to focus on my own growth and self-improvement.

27. I am worthy of living a fulfilling life on my own terms.

28. I have the right to say no.

29. I will not apologize for setting boundaries.

30. I am a priority, and I treat myself accordingly.

31. Saying no allows me to focus on what truly matters to me.

32. I am deserving of love and care — especially from myself.

33. I am deserving of respect, even if others don’t agree.

34. I am worthy of positive relationships that honor and cherish me.

35. Outside validation does not serve me.

36. I have everything I need already inside myself.

37. I am confident in who I am and what I have to offer.

38. I am capable of expressing my boundaries respectfully and assertively.

39. Being a people pleaser no longer serves me.

40. I am strong and resilient and can handle whatever comes my way.

41. I stand in my power.

42. It is my birthright to prioritize myself.

43. My life is lived on my own terms.

44. My focus is getting completely attuned to my wants and needs.

45. I do what is right for me.

46. I am responsible for my own happiness and wellbeing.

47. I trust my gut and know when to say no.

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48. I confidently speak my mind.

49. I have important things to say.

50. My opinions matter.

51. My words hold value and truth.

52. Speaking my wants and needs is a sign of self-respect.

53. I honor my own boundaries and say no when I need to.

54. Saying no to others means saying yes to myself.

55. Saying no is my strength.

56. Living a balanced and fulfilling life is second nature.

57. I am confident in who I am.

58. Knowing exactly what I want runs through my bloodstream.

59. I trust my intuition and judgement.

60. I trust myself to make decisions that are in my best interest.

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61. Every day, I choose to honor my own desires.

62. I am worthy of respect and consideration.

63. I am capable of creating a life that fulfills me.

64. I am free to live my life by my rules.

65. It’s okay to say no to others and yes to myself.

66. No is a complete sentence.

67. I stand up for myself

68. My self-worth oozes from my pores.

69. I am grateful for the opportunity to prioritize myself.

70. I deserve rest and relaxation. 

71. I make time for self-care on a daily basis.

72. I am not responsible for other people’s happiness.

73. It’s safe to meet in the middle.

74. It’s safe for my voice to be heard.

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75. I am in charge of the relationships I allow in my life.

76. People who don’t prioritize my needs are free to leave my life.

77. I am self-assured in all areas of my life.

78. It is safe for me to think for myself.

79. I can and will think for myself.

80. With every breath, I choose the things that fulfill me.

81. I trust my judgement and follow my own path

82. I am empowered to live my life with meaning.

83. My gut and heart always have the right answers.

84. I live a life that aligns with my values and goals.

85. The boundaries I set are healthy and practical.

86. My needs matter.

87. I am capable of making my own decisions.

88. I am free every time I choose self-love.

89. My worth is not determined by other people’s opinions of me.

90. I am grateful for the healthy, balanced relationships in my life.

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91. It’s safe for me to turn down invitations.

92. It’s safe for me to feel and express my emotions.

93. I have the willpower to show up exactly as I am.

94. Self-care is a necessity.

95. I deserve to set healthy boundaries.

96. The only opinion that truly matters is my own.

97. I believe these affirmations to stop people pleasing are making massive changes in all areas of my life.

98. I believe in myself and my abilities to look after my wellbeing.

99. I overcome the urge to people please in all areas of my life.

100. Today, I choose to live, speak, and breathe my priorities.

101. Today, and every day, I choose me.

Positive Affirmations to Stop People Pleasing

Remember, affirmations can be — and should be! — personalized and adapted to fit your unique needs and situations.

If you’re not sure about affirmations, really take the time to practice them with an open mind.

Take the time to really believe in them and their power.

Because when you speak these people pleasing affirmations day, that’s when you’ll really start to see a difference in your self-esteem and people pleasing tendencies!

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